Valuing and supporting one another

There’s always room for more kindness and more love…

Sometimes we can feel really good about ourselves and the world around us – when this is the case, we can usually feel pretty awesome, invincible, flawless and fabulous. These good feelings can also have a positive impact on the people around us. At these times, we may find guys from the gay community giving back, donating and volunteering their time to certain causes.

The Male Call Canada study (2013) asked its participants about charitable giving, here’s what they found:

  • 56% of respondents had made a donation at some point to an HIV/AIDS specific organization/cause
  • 23% of respondents indicated that HIV was a “high priority” when giving back


However….there are other times we can feel alone, anxious, undervalued and like everyone else is doing much better than we are. Having little self-worth is a shit feeling! Sadly, it’s (low self-worth) not uncommon for gay guys who were/are exposed to homophobia, biphobia, transphobia, sexism, racism and misogyny while growing up. Whether we heard friends making gay jokes, faced with stereotypes in the media, or experienced bullying because we were different, these things can have an impact on how we see ourselves.

TIP: in order to value and support others, we need to value ourselves first!

According to a HuffPost Gay article published in May 2014 (Josh Hersh), we can make our (and other gay dudes) lives’ richer, more pleasant and vibrant by speaking form the heart. Ideas about these things to say include:

  1. “I’m proud of who you are”
  2. “Come join us”
  3. “What do you want from life?”
  4. “How can I be a better friend?”
  5. “I’m a strong person, but I’m hurting right now”
  6. “I’m afraid of opening up”
  7. “Can you get off your phone?”
  8. Anything positive or encouraging


Read the juicy details here:

The Male Call Canada research study:


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