The Sex You Want


According to participants of the Male Call Canada study (2013):

  • Over 67% of men reported casual sex in the past 6 months
  • Just over 36% of guys had had 2-5 sex partners in the last 6 months
  • Urban men are more likely to connect online than rural men
  • Guys who were more “community engaged” were more likely to know their HIV status
  • Mobile apps (like Grindr) are the fastest growing way for guys to connect sexually



It is VERY important that, as gay men, we have access to smart, sexy, stigma-free information that understands our needs and responds to ALL of us – mind, body and community…

Are you looking for the SEX you WANT?

Have you ever wanted to know if “it’s safer to top”? Have you been thinking a lot about PnP (party n play)? Want to learn more about undetectable viral loads? Our (GMSH) #thesexyouwant resource goes above and beyond the basics:

Your anal health and your anal pleasure

Many of us are hungry for really good information, tips and techniques about anal sex….well, here is a really informative webinar hosted by the MSM Global Forum:

Tired of the same ol’ fuck positions – try this tantalizing book from KalebSutra:

Here are some essential TIPS for better sex (KalebSutra):


Our friends at the Gay Men’s Health Project (AIDS Coalition of Nova Scotia) developed this informative annual checklist for dudes banging dudes called “Check Me Out” – so….check this out:

  • Sexually active guys (who have sex with guys) should test for HIV at least once a year – if you’re having casual sex with multiple partners, consider increasing your testing to every 3-6 months.
  • Recommended STI tests – HIV, Syphilis and Hepatitis B and C, Gonorrhea, Chlamydia and parasites
  • Recommended vaccinations – Hepatitis A, B and HPV
  • For guys over 21 – testicular exam and check for lymphadenopathy (LGV)
  • For guys over 40 – early detection of prostate cancer
  • For guys over 50 – rectal exam and colorectal cancer screens
  • For poz guys – rectal exams



Male Call Canada research study:

Check Me Out (ACNS):

HIV poz guys:


IF you’re HIV negative and think you’ve RECENTLY come into contact with HIV, read this:

  • PEP (post exposure prophylaxis) is a prescription of HIV medications that are taken over 30 days to try and prevent HIV infection
  • You’d be eligible given the following circumstances = condom break or fail, condomless sex with someone who is HIV positive or status unknown, needle stick injury
  • The sooner you take meds, the better – 72 hours is the max!
  • Medications must be taken as prescribed, side effects may occur
  • PEP is not 100% guaranteed
  • PEP is neither free nor cheap – can cost approximately $900-$1300 month. Some insurance plans can/will cover, otherwise you’ll need to pay out-of-pocket
  • If you cannot afford, you can always ask for them free-of-charge
  • You can contact your local AIDS service organization for help:


Here are two little videos that explain more:


Where you can go:

  • Visit your local hospital emergency department (in the GTA; we recommend St. Michael’s hospital downtown) you could also get in touch with any local HIV clinic
  • Call your primary care doctor (if you have one)
  • Contact your local AIDS Service Organization
  • If you’re in Ottawa, contact Gay Zone Gai – 613-580-2610 or


For much more information (FAQs, considerations, other resources):

If you live in/around the GTA – check out more information here:

If you live in/around the Ottawa area – check out more information here:

Canadian AIDS Treatment Information Exchange (CATIE):

Have you heard about PrEP?

Pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) is an HIV prevention tool. PrEP is a long-term prescription for HIV medications. PrEP is prescribed to HIV negative guys who make this informed choice or who might be considered at higher risk for HIV for a number of reasons. PrEP has not been developed as a way to stop condoms use. Also, PrEP HAS NOT been approved by Health Canada; however, one type of PrEP (daily oral Truvada pills) has been approved in the United States (as of July 2012). This form of PrEP may be available in Canada from doctors who are willing to prescribe it “off-label.” Truvada as PrEP is only considered effective when taken as prescribed (CATIE, 2013). If this prevention tool interests you, you might want to explore this in a conversation with your primary doctor.

In recent news, at the #AIDS2014 conference in Melbourne, Australia, a US-based research study (iPrEx) found that most study participants used PrEP as an additional tool versus giving up on condom use altogether. Also, younger gay men in the sample reported using condoms more often after starting PrEP. Many also reported feeling less stressed, afraid and guilty (about sex) after using PrEP.

Read more here:

For more information visit/sources:


AIDS Committee of Toronto:

Daily Xtra article from February 2014:

PrEP facts (San Francisco):

What does an undetectable HIV viral load mean anyway?

HIV treatment or medications are the best way for us to achieve an “undetectable viral load”.  For some of us it can take longer to get to than others.  An "undetectable" viral load means that the amount of HIV in the blood has been reduced to such a low level that the particular test used to measure viral load cannot find the HIV, BUT it does NOT mean HIV is gone.

The Bottom Line(s):

  • HIV treatment/meds work to reduce the effects of HIV – keep us healthy
  • The European PARTNER study represents evidence that HIV meds can reduce the risk of HIV transmission for sero-mixed gay guys – this is exciting and significant news!
  • STIs can have an impact on the risk of HIV transmission
  • Plan ahead; what's your risk reduction strategy and how will you bring it up? This might include condoms and/or viral load and/or testing and/or PrEP/PEP and/or sero-sorting….make sure you are informed about your strategy of choice
  • Take care of yourself and each other, regardless of your HIV status


For more information:

CATIE/ – “a conversation with James Wilton, (June 2014)” or

CAITE (April 2014)


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